A Letter To My Daughter

I am tearing up just writing to you… You are one of the toughest girls that I know –  you’re the only 4-year old that gets 3 immunizations and looks at the nurse without a tear and says, “Ow. Why did you even do that to me?” You had everyone laughing so hard because your personality is so infectious. I never want you to lose that light. You are the daughter I couldn’t even dream of because you are beyond perfect. I remember the first day that you were born, you were such a smart little two-minute old girl. You were screaming and the nurse placed you on the center of my chest and you squirmed your way to my left breast and started sucking to calm yourself. I knew at that moment you were going to be intelligent. Seconds later, you gave the nurses and doctors the middle finger – I’m assuming this because they took you out of my warm cozy womb (or that’s at least what I tell myself). I knew the instant that you were going to have grit. Thank you for choosing to be my daughter, you make me such a proud mama. Here are a few things I learned growing up, although I want you to learn and make your own mistakes, I hope that you’ll think of me.

1.) Your first heartbreak is going to hurt and you’re going to think that the world is over, but honey… life is just beginning for you. You will be okay.

2.) Skipping school might seem like a great idea at the moment, but you’ll not regret learning about current events when you’re in a social setting and feel so small because you’re not able to contribute. Just don’t do it.

3.) The best friends that you thought were your ride or die partners, they won’t always be there when things go wrong. You will be okay without them.

4.) It might be hard to see at the time, but your family is not out to get you. They are annoying because they really do care about you. Trust your family. Love your family. And even when you don’t, they will be there when you are ready. Family is everything.

5.) Go to your school dances, even if you don’t have a date. Those are memories you’ll want to remember.

6.) Date more. You deserve the world. Be with someone who loves every part of you and sees you as an equal. You are never stuck. If you’re with someone who is not “the one” and you feel it in your bones that this isn’t what you want, have the courage to leave. Never settle for less. Things will be okay.

7.) Trust yourself. If something doesn’t feel right, then remove yourself from the situation because 100% of the time your intuition will save you.

8.) Trust your heart because you are smart and your heart is so pure.

9.) You are an amazing daughter, sister, and friend. You are a gem.

10.) Lastly, remember that you are strong, beautiful inside and out. You’ll have bad days and good days, learn from the bad and cherish the good.